How Do I Sexy Review

 Thank you to Netgalley for giving me an ARC copy of this book, all opinions are my own.

This book is an outstanding look at trans queerness and at helping young adults find a way to be sexy in a world that teaches them to be ashamed for being different. The book is a refreshing look at trans queerness and feels like it was written for us rather than about us.

I enjoyed the formula that exists for most of the book, where Mx. Nillin Lore provides facts/history, before giving the reader an anecdote about their journey, and then proceeds to teach us how to do it ourselves. It is an effective way to teach and a smart way to blend memoir and self-help. Each chapter is well thought out and well-paced while being enjoyable to read. Lore manages the tonal shifts well, going from an educational. or serious tone to a more humorous and lighthearted one without feeling forced. The tonal shifts also help to stop the book from becoming either too dark or too frivolous.

The book also teaches important lessons and does an excellent job of examining what stops a person from feeling sexy and teaching the reader how to overcome it even if it means examining things a person doesn't want to look too closely at.

The book is a mix of a personal essay, a self-help/advice guide, and a history lesson and balances all of these aspects wonderfully. On a personal note, I think this book is important and necessary and would be helpful for anyone who is trying to find out how to be sexy, but especially the trans queers who don't even know where to begin